I am Spudgun..Hear me buzz

http://www.chameleongroup.org.uk/npd/lies.html

In this sense, while common sense clearly sees lying as a social ill, the narcissist views lying as an excellent tool to obtain what (s)he wants and as a means to demonstrate how stupid others are.

A person now, who wishes to engage in real communication and shows openness will be viewed by the narcissist as an utter fool who deserves to be exploited. Willingness to communicate and to show openness will be seen be the narcissist as weakness and stupidity.

When dealing with a narcissist, extreme care must be taken and events need to be recorded. It also is important to communicate with others who have to deal with the narcissist in order to counter-act splitting. This is, the narcissist uses lies in order to set up people against each other. In general, this is quite simple: The narcissist tells a person A that person B doesn’t like person A and the same the other way round. This then prevents A from talking to B and hence both parties can be manipulated through the narcissist’s lies.

While a normal person will be embarrassed when found out lying, not so the narcissist. The narcissist will see this as a threat to her/his superiority and will straight away think of ways of how to overcome this threat and this is by forming new lies.

To say it in one sentence: For the narcissist lying is fun and a tool, and anybody who doesn’t lie is a fool in the eyes of the narcissist. Trying to communicate with a narcissist is therefore pointless.

Dr. Ludger Hofmann-Engl

Above and beyond the lies he has told for no apparent reason (coma), the lies he has told to appear innocent (Thornbury) and the lies he has told to make himself look better (ghost mouseski), there are the lies he has told about me (on not being interested and the most grubby way imaginable). I have heard that we ‘dated’ and ‘had a fling’. I have a partner, we’ve been together for the past 15 odd years, and I wouldn’t put that in jepordy for the likes of killmouseski. So that is a resounding, NO we didnt date/sleep together/kiss/have a fling/anything else his imagination cooked up.

I am also apparently seeking some form of revenge for a ‘failed drunken advance’. He doesnt actually explicitly state that I made an advance to him, his exact words were:

“Chimps wild and inaccurate accusations are both hurtfull and mischievous, given his associations. These accusations are nothing more that a revenge from someone that did not appreciate being told to F-off when an anebriated ‘physical’ approach was made. Chimp with his rose tinted view of spudgun simply cann’t see this and instead acted upon one version of events only”

It does seem odd that I would seek revenge on him for an advance made to someone else which is what he is counting on when he insinuated this to 4 staff members. It also means that to counteract his lies, I have to tell the truth.. shall we just say I was drunk, I can live with it, and it was NOT Stephen Cole/killmouseski that I went anywhere near? What actually happened was witnessed by everyone there and had absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with killmouseski. In fact, bar these log entries, which are just a matter of setting the record straight for those of you who are interested in hearing the truth, nothing I ever do has anything to do with that sad little man, Stephen Cole. Don’t ever let him convince you otherwise.

The password for the next four posts is the same as the secret box. Contact me if you dont remember it!

http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2007/oct/08/health.lifeandhealth

and so very very wrong